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Sonia Neale

Jul 6, 20222 min read

Words to Live By

If there is one thing I've learned in life, it's that I don’t hold grudges. I don’t sweat stuff. I don’t “stop talking” to people or...

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Mental Wellness and Females on the Autism Spectrum Condition (Formerly known as Asperger’s Syndrome)

Sonia Neale

Jun 5, 20222 min read

Mental Wellness and Females on the Autism Spectrum Condition (Formerly known as Asperger’s Syndrome)

Autism in males and females presents differently. Autism is not a mental illness as such (which is why researchers are using the word...

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Sonia Neale

May 2, 20223 min read

Mental Health and House Guests

House guests are like fish, they go off in three days Inviting visitors to your home sounds like a grand idea at the time. Even visitors...

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Gender Differences in Borderline Personality Disorder

Sonia Neale

Apr 10, 20222 min read

Gender Differences in Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness characterized by ongoing patterns of mood instability, inability to control...

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Paranoia and Borderline Personality Disorder

Sonia Neale

Mar 13, 20223 min read

Paranoia and Borderline Personality Disorder

Paranoia is a symptom of BPD. This is an experience where when relating to other people, something is said that is triggering for you. ...

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Five Ways to Improve Your Sense of Self and Live the Life You Deserve.

Sonia Neale

Feb 28, 20223 min read

Five Ways to Improve Your Sense of Self and Live the Life You Deserve.

Self-esteem refers to the identity of who you are. Personality traits, skills and talents, passions, special interests, values, beliefs,...

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Five ways to deal with toxic people in your life

Sonia Neale

Feb 21, 20222 min read

Five ways to deal with toxic people in your life

Dealing with people who continually act in toxic ways is mentally exhausting. For the emotionally vulnerable and people with Borderline...

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Reduce your Anxiety and Depression with Nature.

Sonia Neale

Feb 13, 20222 min read

Reduce your Anxiety and Depression with Nature.

I have been interested in photography since 1980. I’ve taken photos in many different countries. Each time I am behind the camera...

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Sonia Neale

Jan 31, 20223 min read

Five Things to Quit Right Now

I have this sign in my therapy room. Every so often I read it and reflect. I also ask clients to read it and tell me about what it...

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Borderline Personality Disorder – Validation versus Invalidation of Emotional Experience.

Sonia Neale

Oct 13, 20212 min read

Borderline Personality Disorder – Validation versus Invalidation of Emotional Experience.

What is validation for people with Borderline Personality Disorder? Let’s start by saying what it isn’t. Validation does not mean...

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Toxic Rumination

Sonia Neale

Oct 4, 20213 min read

Borderline Personality Disorder and Toxic Rumination

Have you ever found yourself awake at 3am, that loneliest of lonely times where you overthink the Top 20 mistakes of your lifetime? This...

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Sonia Neale

Sep 28, 20212 min read

Having an Emotional Affair

An emotional affair is when an intimate non-sexual relationship occurs with someone other than your partner and threatens to overtake and...

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Sonia Neale

Aug 4, 20213 min read

Trauma Recovery

Everyone suffers from trauma. That is, the “little trauma” of everyday life. The circumstances in which you are born, how you were raised...

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Borderline Personality Disorder: Self-Harm, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy and Trauma Therapy

Sonia Neale

Jul 11, 20215 min read

Borderline Personality Disorder: Self-Harm, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy and Trauma Therapy

Engaging in self-harm does not mean a client is suicidal. Having thoughts of suicide does not always mean the person intends to take...

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Relationships Counselling for Parent and Older Child Dyad

Sonia Neale

Jun 4, 20213 min read

Relationships Counselling for Parent and Older Child Dyad

I am a Couples and Relationships Counsellor. I see couples and sometimes parent/adult children for Relationships Counselling. What I have...

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Seven Reasons Why Couples are Ratty and Exhausted

Sonia Neale

May 20, 20214 min read

Seven Reasons Why Couples are Ratty and Exhausted

1. Lack of communication skills Many couples shout through walls at each other. Move to where they are, and if you can’t, call their name...

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Borderline Personality Disorder and the Bay City Rollers

Sonia Neale

Apr 23, 20212 min read

Borderline Personality Disorder and the Bay City Rollers

This morning I woke to the news that Les McKeown, Lead Singer of the Bay City Rollers had suddenly died. Was this a really bad joke? I...

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Getting Older

Sonia Neale

Apr 15, 20213 min read

Borderline Personality Disorder and Getting Older

Research has suggested that people with BPD "grow out of their disorder with age." However, what has also been found is that suicide...

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Borderline Personality Disorder - S.T.O.P. Stop, Take a Step back, Observe, Proceed mindfully

Sonia Neale

Mar 28, 20212 min read

Borderline Personality Disorder - S.T.O.P. Stop, Take a Step back, Observe, Proceed mindfully

The gold standard for therapy with people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). One of the...

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The Art of Gaslighting and Subtle Bullying

Sonia Neale

Mar 14, 20212 min read

The Art of Gaslighting and Subtle Bullying

One of the most insidious forms of bullying is so subtle that when it happens people around you have no idea what’s happening. It’s...

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