If there is one thing I've learned in life, it's that I don’t hold grudges. I don’t sweat stuff. I don’t “stop talking” to people or...

Autism in males and females presents differently. Autism is not a mental illness as such (which is why researchers are using the word...

House guests are like fish, they go off in three days Inviting visitors to your home sounds like a grand idea at the time. Even visitors...

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness characterized by ongoing patterns of mood instability, inability to control...

Paranoia is a symptom of BPD. This is an experience where when relating to other people, something is said that is triggering for you. ...

Self-esteem refers to the identity of who you are. Personality traits, skills and talents, passions, special interests, values, beliefs,...

Dealing with people who continually act in toxic ways is mentally exhausting. For the emotionally vulnerable and people with Borderline...

I have been interested in photography since 1980. I’ve taken photos in many different countries. Each time I am behind the camera...

I have this sign in my therapy room. Every so often I read it and reflect. I also ask clients to read it and tell me about what it...

What is validation for people with Borderline Personality Disorder? Let’s start by saying what it isn’t. Validation does not mean...

Have you ever found yourself awake at 3am, that loneliest of lonely times where you overthink the Top 20 mistakes of your lifetime? This...

An emotional affair is when an intimate non-sexual relationship occurs with someone other than your partner and threatens to overtake and...

Everyone suffers from trauma. That is, the “little trauma” of everyday life. The circumstances in which you are born, how you were raised...

Engaging in self-harm does not mean a client is suicidal. Having thoughts of suicide does not always mean the person intends to take...

I am a Couples and Relationships Counsellor. I see couples and sometimes parent/adult children for Relationships Counselling. What I have...

1. Lack of communication skills Many couples shout through walls at each other. Move to where they are, and if you can’t, call their name...

This morning I woke to the news that Les McKeown, Lead Singer of the Bay City Rollers had suddenly died. Was this a really bad joke? I...

Research has suggested that people with BPD "grow out of their disorder with age." However, what has also been found is that suicide...

The gold standard for therapy with people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). One of the...

One of the most insidious forms of bullying is so subtle that when it happens people around you have no idea what’s happening. It’s...